White Robed Monks of St. Benedict
South Africa Presence
Frequently Asked Questions
Identifying someone to officiate at your wedding can sometimes be a more daunting task
than finding your betrothed - especially if you are not affiliated with a particular house of worship or
if you are marrying outside of your faith. The key to finding an officiant who is in sync with you and
your partner is to ask questions. To avoid the cookie cutter approach to weddings, we recommend asking
these essential questions of a prospective wedding officiant before you walk down the aisle.
How do you create the ceremony?
Do we have final approval over the script? Ideally, the officiant should collaborate with you
every step of the way so that the ceremony is tailor-made for you. Don't let a boilerplate ceremony
be imposed on you. We encourage you to personalize your ceremony.
When will you arrive?
The officiant should be available at least 30 minutes before the ceremony in order to un
through any last minute changes, and to coordinate details with readers, musicians, photographers
and videographers. We are always there at least 30 minutes before the scheduled start.
To be legally married, you will need to take care of legal formalities.
After the ceremony, the priest will make sure that your license is signed
and sent to the appropriate agency. He will also provide a marriage certificate
for your more immediate use.
Do you attend the rehearsal at the wedding venue?
Many officiants don't rehearse, but a rehearsal is essential for a beautifully choreographed
ceremony - and for calming last-minute nerves. We always attend the rehearsal, except in very
Can we vary the traditional choreography of a wedding?
You may wish to face your guests rather than the officiant, or have the officiant stand to the
side instead of between you and your spouse. Make sure your officiant is open to these suggestions.
Of course, you may alter the traditional.
What training do you have in creating and officiating at ceremonies?
Many officiants have no specific training. Look for those who have a sound background in the history
of ritual and ceremony. The dean holds a Masters in Divinity from a leading seminary in the Midwest
and is in direct supervision of the other officiants.
Will you work with our other wedding professionals?
The officiant should coordinate as needed with musicians to provide music cues for the ceremony, with photographers and videographers to assist them in getting the best shots, and with the staff of your venue to ensure that the ceremony will not conflict in any way with their requirements. Of course, other professionals are welcome.
For more FAQs, please refer to Frequently Asked Questions re Marriage
Those having difficulty with or do not wish their child baptized in their institutional church of origin will again find openness and acceptance with the White Robed Monks of St. Benedict.
Those having difficulty being confirmed in their institutional church of origin will, likewise, again find openness and acceptance with the White Robed Monks of St. Benedict.
Those experiencing religious differences with their institutional church of origin, those entering into a second marriage, and others without a particular religious affiliation will find openness and acceptance with the White Robed Monks of St. Benedict. Please see our FAQs re Marriage.
If you wish to re-new your Marriage Vows, please refer to Vow Renwal
Daily Mass at the Chapel of Sts Sergius and Bacchus (Mondeor, Johannesburg): Monday to Saturday at 9 AM and Sundays at 10 AM.
All welcome to join our community at prayer. For details and to request Mass Intentions please contact Bishop Oliver.
Mass is celebrated at the Chapel of St Francis of Assisi (Kraaifontein, Cape Town): Wednesdays at 6:30 PM and Sundays at 9:30 AM.
A priest is also available for Listening-Conversation-Confession on Saturdays at 9 AM and Wednesdays at 5:30 PM. For details, please contact Fr Halford.
Many times, families are not members of a local parish, but still seek comfort in their grief. The White Robed Monks of St. Benedict can provide comfort during these difficult time. Please see our FAQs re Funerals.
We welcome any inquiries, and are here for you to answer your questions and concerns, please contact our
Guest Master now. Please click HERE for further contact information. Thank you. Peace and Joy!